One thing I really don't understand is why people refuse to talk about unpleasant things in order to resolve a problem. Ignoring the problem is not going to make it go away. Well, unless you plan to cut the person out of your life completely and then change your phone number and email address so that the person can't reach you. But that's pretty extreme if you ask me.
If you try to ignore a problem that keeps coming up again and again with someone, you are accomplishing nothing. If you ignore it this time, it will come back a little while later. If you ignore it when it comes back, it will still come back a little while later. EVERY TIME YOU IGNORE IT, IT WILL COME BACK. So you should just fucking deal with it and save us all the trouble.
Because you see, every time you refuse to talk about it, you are highlighting the fact that there is a problem, and then refusing to solve it. Do you know what that does to the other person? While you're busy ignoring their attempt to resolve the problem, they get the message that you just don't care about resolving the problem. Then, because everything is no longer sunny and wonderful between the two of you, they are worried that things won't work out and that the two of you won't be friends again. They spend all their time worrying and become distracted from their schoolwork. It becomes so bad that they can't concentrate and can't get any work done. The amount of stress that you have caused them is so bad that they feel like they have aged 10 years overnight and wake up with stress-induced migraines.
So to sum up, it would be a whole lot better for everyone if people would just suck it up and talk about something unpleasant ONE TIME, to just be done with it. You should rip it off quick, like a bandaid. Then it's over and done with and you never have to mention it ever again. JUST FUCKING DEAL WITH IT, OKAY???
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