Disgusting

As I've mentioned before, our society places far more importance on physical injuries than mental injuries. I really think that this is something that needs to change.

If someone punches you in the face, and you can have them arrested for assault. If someone is emotionally abusive, nothing can be done. That person cannot be arrested for the emotional harm that they have done to you. That person will not have to pay any money in fines for what they have done, and will not have any infraction placed on their record. They freely and cleanly get away with causing you pain.

This disgusts me. People who are emotionally abusive should not be allowed to get away with it. And all that does is encourage people to keep doing it. That it's ok to mentally abuse someone.

Well fuck that. If I could, I would have Mara arrested. People like her don't deserve to roam free. She deserves to be locked in a cell with Ray for eternity.

She told me that she couldn't give me what I needed as a friend, because she refused to talk about my point of view about Ray. I told her, "All I hear is you saying that you do not care about me enough to give me basic levels of respect."

This would have been the time for her to say something like, "You're misunderstanding. I do respect you." But nope, nothing like that. Which means that what I said was true: she does not care about me enough to give me basic levels of respect.

Instead, she chimed back with, "And all I hear is you saying that I'm a bad friend for not bending to what you think you need."

Excuse me? I do not know what I "think" I need. I "know" that I need to be treated with respect and equality from my friends. That is something unnegotiable.

So I said, "I will never bend my necessity to be treated with equality and respect. I can't believe you are even asking me to do that. What kind of person are you? Do you want me to be emotionally abused by you? Do you think that your friends don't deserve to be treated with equality and respect? Well I'm sorry for dating Ray. You two deserve each other."

Honestly. I don't know who she thinks she is. When somebody tells you that something you do makes them feel disrespected, and then you refuse to change your behavior, that makes you an emotional abuser. Because if they decide to stay your friend, that will mean that they are demeaning themselves. They are saying that it's ok for you to treat them in a way that makes them feel disrespected.

Well, I wasn't having it.

Then, Mike had the gall to comment on my Facebook status that said "People disgust me. I really wish I understood why people think that others are inferior to them. People should be arrested for emotional abuse." He said, "Um, how about the first amendment?"

Seriously, what. the. fuck. He's suggesting that emotional abuse is protected by the first amendment. How special. This is exactly the kind of mindset that needs to be changed. This is exactly why there are no laws in the first place to protect people from emotional abuse. Apparently, it's constitutional to demean someone.