The Solution of Methods

So I talked to a variety of people on this. I've asked people older than me, people my age, people who tend to have opposite viewpoints to my own. Everyone I have talked to has said that Lawrence's method is not good. They think that my method is far healthier and far more productive.

The problem though, was that Lawrence is far happier than I am. I didn't understand how that could be possible, if my method was apparently better.

But finally, my Mom found the answer:

The reason that my method does not make me happy is that I hold onto people longer than I should.

I told her about the Mara situation, and she said that she counted three times where we were friends and then not friends. She said that my method is great to use for a first infraction, or maybe a second infraction that is different than the first infraction, but beyond that, Lawrence's method should be used. But in the Mara situation, the infraction was basically a variation of the same thing: Mara did not trust me and had not forgiven me for the Ray thing. She said that if something is not resolved the first time, it's unlikely that it will ever be resolved. Therefore, because the same problem kept coming up with Mara, I should just let her go. Forget about her. Because it's likely that the same problem would keep coming up again and again, introducing more cycles of being friends and then not friends.

Come to think of it, that's what happened with Ray as well. Two cycles of being friends and then not friends, where the infraction was the same for both. It's best to just move on and forget.

The other thing to note is something Fred said. He said that usually, people use my method if they really care about the person. They use Lawrence's method if they do not really care about the person. So based on which method the person uses, it's an indicator of how much they care.